I have been asked how I got into relationship coaching. When I got divorced after 23 years of marriage, I took every relationship courses I could find. I learned that everything I had done in my marriage to make it work, had destroyed it. It wasn’t that I didn’t love my husband, I did. I just didn’t know how to fix what was wrong.
I started dating a man who was 18 years younger than I. He was Iranian, Jewish, firstborn of seven children. His mother and I were the same age. Needless to say it didn’t last. However, we remained very close friends.
He went back to his former girlfriend, who was very naïve and spoiled and didn’t trust me. After at least two life altering crises, she finally decided that he was not what she wanted and that she really wanted to get married. When I encountered her at that time, she asked me to help her saying “I have watched how he is with you. It’s different. All these months when I have had his body, you have had his soul. I want to learn how to do that and I believe that you can teach me. Will you? “I said NO but Gina kept asking me to teach her. I finally agreed to try and that led us into a two year coaching relationship where I taught her how to choose a man she wanted and to have the self-respect to ask for what she wanted and to get it. Because she was willing to do whatever it took, no matter how difficult, she got what she wanted. She didn’t settle for anything. She has been married now for twenty-four years, they have two sons and they have the hottest married relationship around. He produces for her. She expresses her appetite.
The most difficult task for a woman in relationship is to achieve clarity about what she wants and have the self-esteem to ask for it. From this work, I created my original CLASS relationship coaching system, to push my clients beyond where they think they can go, never to settle for less than what they want and to be willing to risk losing everything they think they have to get what they really want. I have been using this system for 25 years with amazing success.
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